1. Live to impress yourself often. If you impress yourself often, you’d develop a high self-worth and carriage. Impress yourself- put out amazing content, smash saving goals, start skin care, get that body, ace that course, spoil your sister and mum, buy yourself gifts, take drip pictures, go to luxurious locations and many more. These little things will impress you and build a catalogue of an impressive lifestyle in your mind, thus resulting in a proud, healthy esteemed personality.
2.It is okay to not be part of crypto, not a content creator, not an affiliate marketer, a Youtuber or TikToker. Find something that interests you and throw yourself into it. Take time to learn whatever you’re doing. Don’t just dive in because it is cool and what others are doing. After all, whatever is worth doing is worth doing well.
3. Never be someone’s surety for anything - even your sibling or wife. You’re putting yourself in front of the knife, people will always be people! If you don’t have the money to give, say “eeyah” as Nigerians commonly do, then add “God will provide”. Don’t let anyone develop a level of confidence in you that you will not be able to meet with!
4. Understand the stages of your life more than anyone. If you’re in the building process, don’t let someone that is in their harvesting period disrupt your plan and process with some motivational speech they developed after they attained success. Understand what stage you are in your relationship, career, and personal development. If you’re still learning and navigating, stick to it. If you’re building, stay building. Building is hard, don’t leave your learning process to go build someone else’s sh*t- stay focused!
5. Relationships are fickle these days- we know too much, we are exposed to too much, so many red flags. Nobody wants to be the loser; nobody wants to be the good one that got hurt. Good is a funny word, sounds like taboo! How about you set the standard for what you want, be who you want to be.
Do you like gifts? Gift your friends, be amazing. If it doesn’t work out, then it’s their loss. It will hurt you for a while like all your exes, then someone amazing will catch your eye and you’ll forget like you forgot your last. Be the standard!
6. If you know you’re the kind of person that can’t forgive or forget, the kind of person that can’t sleep at night when hurt, it’s okay. Some of us are like that- hurt that person back so you can sleep at night.
It is okay to be wicked. I’m sure God didn’t create all of us to be sweet and meek. If revenge will make you feel netter, get it. That is better than filling the room with rage and ruining other people’s day via something called “transfer of aggression”.
7. Learn to talk less, especially in front of the opposite gender. I know when you like someone or want to impress, you tend to talk a lot. Fam! That’s how you end up piling up lies and promises that will kill you.
Learn to listen, contribute to what people say, then listen again. Talk less, that way you contradict yourself less.
8. Love your woman or Man unapologetically, 'that thing dey sweet'. Not for their benefit but for yours. Love uplifts, eases depression, makes us better people. Love that person that loves you, make love, enjoy every bit of it, and make memories!
Studies have shown that people in a happy and fulfilling relationships are happy and fulfilling in their careers too. If you don’t love the person you’re with, why suffer? And if they don’t love you, stay single! We underestimate how much effect our intimate relationships have on our careers too!
9. Drink a lot of water and take a poop every morning…. Lol. Make this more of a priority as you grow older!
10. Love your mother!
